Stand up against bullying! (Discussion and giveaway)




I am happy to be part of the Spread Love, Not Hate Blog hop today!  As a teacher- man have I seen my share of bullying- both from my students AND from other teachers. 
I taught very young students and they aren't even separated from bullies.  I have had girls gang up on other girls- picking on one so much that she hid and cried and feared to come to school. I have had older students deliberately hurt young ones.  What is the worst of all of that?  Adults.  Adults can be some of the biggest bullies out there.  You don't think an adult can bully a kid? Ever been told you are fat by a parent? Not good enough? Not trying hard enough? Not ________ enough?  I think you see my point....  Parents- you are the BIGGEST influence in your child's life- it is your job to make them see how beautiful and precious and loved they are!
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Ahem, I got off topic.  I REALLY wanted to talk about bullying in the online book world.  I tend to shy away from drama because I very much dislike being a part of it- it makes me feel unwell.  There has been a ton of drama online in the last month- and I for one am very tired of it.  The book blogging world is a community- a community made of readers, bloggers, authors of publishing houses and independent publishers, agents, publishing houses- there are a ton of parts to our community!  I am so sad to see parts of this community attacking each other- and even more importantly, in public.

Please don't expect me to take sides and say that "it's the authors/ agents fault- they need to be more professional" or "it's the bloggers fault- they are too mean".... because honestly, I agree with both.  I think respect goes both ways- whether it be author to blogger, blogger to author, or even blogger to blogger.  When people get online, they feel more FREE to write whatever they want, and sometimes don't think that the whole world will see it.... that simply isn't true.
The best thing I have ever learned from being online is don't EVER say anything online that you wouldn't say in person.  And if you have a problem with someone- take it straight to them.  Don't tell someone else why you have a problem with another person- take it straight to the source.  


If you have a book blog or are an author, that means you understand and are capable of putting sentences together, you are able to write and express complete thoughts- which ALSO means that as a community we can have discourse about a topic in a HEALTHY way.  If I thought a book was really harmful for teens- my reccommendation?  Start a discussion post- invite the author- KEEP. IT. CIVIL.

Above all- let's share more love and less hate- I think if we got out of our bodies for a minute- and tried to be in another's shoes, we could understand more where other opinions come from and realize that we all need each other.




Giveaway time!  This is really simple:  Post a comment below and join in my conversation- what do you think?  Agree? Disagree?  Have a story to share?  Each time you post or reply to someone else's comment you will get an entry!  Make sure to include your email with your first post!  (And if the post seems "spammy"- like you aren't actually trying to be part of the conversation- I won't count it!)




So what am I giving away?  A book about bullying to the extreme.....  and something very very terrible that happened because of it....









Giveaway ends 2/29/12.  Open to US/ CA only.  13+.



16 comments:

  1. "Don't EVER say anything online that you wouldn't say in person". Very good advice. People seem to forget this way too often. Bullying makes me so sad and I'm not perfect either, but gosh. Let's all just be nice to each other.

    Thanks for participating and sharing your story.
    daniellesaunders1984(at)hotmail(dot)com

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    1. It is so true- you can't see how the person is feeling or how they are doing on the other side of the computer....

      Thanks for stopping by!

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  2. I totally agree - the online world, while it's brought me hundreds of amazing friends, could stand to be more civil. Thank you for joining in Spread <3, Not Hate!

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  3. Last year I taught fourth grade and I could not believe that there were already children being bullied on line. Name calling on Facebook, and people stealing passwords and posting negative gossip. I try very hard to teach my students not to use Facebook and not to share anything on line that they wouldn't say face to face. As to sharing passwords with friends, friendships can go bad fast in school. I also teach and model to them how to handle put-downs and bullying as an adult can't always be there.
    deanna_boocock (at) hotmail.com

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    1. Sometimes I wonder what the world is going to be like for my future children. I'm glad you work with children and teach them these things.

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    2. I totally agree, Cass, and that's why I'm homeschooling my kids now. The schools have become so scared of the students that they don't discipline them when they do wrong, so the kids are running wild! I don't blame the teachers, I blame the administration, and more importantly, the parents! My older kids dealt with bullying when it wasn't as bad as it is now, and I won't let my youngest go through that. Thank you to all of the teachers out there who are trying to protect the students, and teach the kids right from wrong :)

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    3. You are doing a great job. Being a teacher is one of the most unappreciated jobs out there- and as a fellow teacher and parent- I appreciate you!

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  4. Amazing post and giveaway! deaton.cassie@yahoo.com I want to be a writer one day and I wonder all the time how writers react to bad post and criticism...I really hate when the comment-er goes past talking bad about the book and starts talking bad about the author like they actually know them. As far as facebook and twitter goes I wish people would spend the time they do bullying people and do a little self reflection. Maybe they will see the real problem is inside their self. If I ever do write a book I hope there are people like you who can spread the word about bullying ...you can take the pledge against bullying at the bottom of my post if you get the time
    http://shadowkissedcassie.blogspot.com/2012/02/spread-love-not-hate-blog-hop-stand.html Hope I WIN :)

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    1. Thanks for stopping by.

      I think you are already off to a great start of being a writer- you have a great attitude!

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  5. I agree with you - I am really tired of hearing about the feud going on! Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and everyone's opinion is valid - nuff said!! Let it go! Be respectful, and if you don't agree with what someone said, and you can't respond in a respectful manner, don't leave a response! If someone doesn't like a book, that is their opinion. If you didn't like it, that is your opinion. I really don't understand what the problem is. If you see a post where someone was snarky and rude in their review or comment, just move past it, because trust me, that person WILL get called on their behavior in one way or another! If you respond in kind, then YOU will be grouped in with them, and YOU will get called on your behavior too! Is it really worth it? NO!

    Sorry, but this whole thing has me crazy! LOL Thanks for the excellent post, and the very excellent giveaway:)
    jwitt33 at live dot com

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    1. I don't mind when authors respond- I just wish that both authors and bloggers wouldn't immediately jump all over each other the way we do online. It isn't fair to EITHER side. BOTH sides have emotions tied up in the book (although undoubtedly more with the author than blogger).

      Thanks for stopping by- I loved reading your thoughts!

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  6. The blogger/author feud is a little over the top. And I've come to the conclusion that you have to separate the book from the author when you're not giving the best review. And I try to point out the fact that the book could be written very well, but it just didn't fit well with me. Because as much as a book is written to reach and grab your interest, you have to be interested and receptive in order to like it.

    alamda(at)gmail(dot)com

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    1. So much YES.

      Thank you for stopping by! (And for commenting so often- I love reading them... even when I am too busy chasing a toddler to reply!)

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  7. I am new to the book blogging world, and I have given both negative and positive reviews to books. I always try to keep in mind the author's feelings when I'm writing--the book I just read has probably taken a couple of years to write and get published! Writing is a labor of love, and it's like putting your baby out there for the world to criticize. I think when writing a review, it's important to state at least one thing I DID like, as well as the things that didn't work for me.

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